Untamed is a novel written by the author of Love Warrior and Carry On, Warrior, Glennon Doyle. Written much like a memoir, Untamed is a collection of anecdotal stories that detail the lessons she’s learned about women not fearing our own desires. Doyle posits that society has taught us to fear what we truly want because women have a duty to “be responsible” and sacrifice ourselves, our wishes and dreams in order to serve others. But when do we begin serving ourselves?
Doyle writes that to gain true freedom, we must “do what the FUCK” we want. She challenges us to dare to create a world where women do not fear our desires and subvert those for others’ needs. We can only serve others when we truly learn to serve ourselves first. It’s not shameful because white, straight, cisgender men do it all the time.
I listened to this in audiobook form. Doyle narrates which makes it that much more impactful. Her voice is open, honest, and at times very witty. I recommend this book to anyone who has ever felt like they have abandoned themselves and their instincts. We are taught not to trust our instincts which leads to constant inner conflict and ultimately, becoming a shell of who we really are. Let’s begin the work in unraveling these patriarchal norms and free ourselves.
In conclusion, I love this book. I’ve thought about it every day since I listened to it — it’s stayed with me. That rarely happens. Take my word for it, friends, get your hands on a copy and begin unraveling the patriarchy in you.