I’ve written a lot on here about how I usually opt for natural beauty, not wearing wigs when I lost my hair, choosing not to wear makeup a lot of the time, etc. But recently, I’ve switched to a new facial serum, and incorporating a new product into my routine always breaks me out. I have also written here about dealing with BFRBs for years, which exacerbates my breakouts. It’s a big source of shame for me. So instead of facing my Zoom calls a fresh faced like I choose more often than not, I put on some concealer and foundation. And instead of further shaming myself for subscribing to traditional beauty, I decided that was how I wanted to show up in the world that day, feeling my best. Which caused me to pause and reflect.
I have previously failed to make clear that I think however we want to show up in the world is the way we should show up. Not wearing a wig was my own choice, and I feel like I intimated that is the right way. Would I get Botox? Probably not, but I am still very young. If at any point in the future, I decide it’s right for me, I’m going to do it and not feel shame. And so should you. It’s not about how everyone feels about you, it’s what makes you feel good about yourself.
Showing up “naturally” in the world is a privilege and sort of snobby upon self-reflection. Whatever you decide is right for you, I will support you 100%. You want to wear the shorts that show your (insert insecurity here), wear the damn shorts. You want to get a rhinoplasty, you get the fucking rhinoplasty. You want veneers, get them. And don’t feel guilt or shame for a second. These bodies are frighteningly ephemeral, it doesn’t matter. You do you, friend. And I’ll support it all the way.